I guess you're responding to invest07's solution item of taking more steps to encourage adoption. Even if you can't recognize the tremendously positive thing you've done, my gratitude goes to you for allowing your child to live. I'm sorry for your sadness.
My step-sister gave her baby up. Coercion can cover a broad range of situations - from parents fully pushing it down a girls throat to a counselor helping a woman to search her heart. Her longings to have her baby back diminished over time, and today she has the occasional melancholy moment, wondering how her birth-daughter is doing, what her life is like, etc. Perhaps someday the girl will decide to connect with her.
Emotional competency? So you suggest that abortion is a viable solution in a state that you knowingly regard as vulnerable? Scary to think you're advocating a person who is scared and vulnerable to go have an abortion.
The grief and sense of loss are often very real to the woman who aborts her baby, too. Combined with that is often a tremendous sense of guilt. It is not over and done with quickly. How can it possibly be better to know that you provided your child with an opportunity to live, to have a decent life with parents who want and love them, than to deal with the unending grief and guilt from abortion?
So true. A decision that can never be undone, with nothing positive to salve your pain. It is final, and totally no answer in this discussion of identifying causes for abortion and seeking answers and alternatives.
