All costs of child rearing should be borne by men.

No, that isn't the case at all. Some of the traditional values of the past were working well, yet people chose to disregard them, often under the illusion of having more freedom.

Or the reality of having more freedom.

"People tend to do what is good for them, not what harms them."

Strange that you deny the truth of my statement. If a lie, then you must think people intentionally like to do what is not pleasing to them and harmful.

I thought you were brighter than that.

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DL
 
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Do you know when the term "latch key kids" originated? It was when the mother, and in part the father, determined that their careers were of more value then their kids. It then became easier for the "parent" to become the kids "friend" instead of the parent. It also became easier for the parent to get the kid a cell phone to use at the mall.

One of the greatest problems we have in this country is a lack of respect for others, and you don't gain respect from "talking". You just put yourself up as a "soft touch".

Strange. Most that I know who had latch key kids had to do as they did because it takes two incomes to support a household these days.

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DL
 
Or the reality of having more freedom.

"People tend to do what is good for them, not what harms them."

Strange that you deny the truth of my statement. If a lie, then you must think people intentionally like to do what is not pleasing to them and harmful.

I thought you were brighter than that.

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DL


No, your comment is true, however, it is your understanding of it that is in error. For thousands of years parents have understood that children learn best when there is some incentive to do so. "Time outs" offer no such incentive. However, you ignore (as usual) the reality of the topic, and try to equate corporal punishment with child abuse. In fact, "time outs" could be equated with emotional abuse of a child if one wished to do so. If parents using corporal punishment are doing it properly there is an explanation to the child as to why the child is being punished. So you have the benefit of both methods, punishment, and talking.
 
No, your comment is true, however, it is your understanding of it that is in error. For thousands of years parents have understood that children learn best when there is some incentive to do so. "Time outs" offer no such incentive. However, you ignore (as usual) the reality of the topic, and try to equate corporal punishment with child abuse. In fact, "time outs" could be equated with emotional abuse of a child if one wished to do so. If parents using corporal punishment are doing it properly there is an explanation to the child as to why the child is being punished. So you have the benefit of both methods, punishment, and talking.

Yep. Beating kids is quite rewarding. To fools.

https://www.sciencebasedmedicine.or...in-the-home-parenting-tool-or-parenting-fail/

"a great deal of evidence showing that spanking is ineffective, is a risk factor for greater forms of physical abuse and can negatively impact the behavioral and cognitive development of children in a variety of ways,"

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DL
 
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Yep. Beating kids is quite rewarding. To fools.

https://www.sciencebasedmedicine.or...in-the-home-parenting-tool-or-parenting-fail/

"a great deal of evidence showing that spanking is ineffective, is a risk factor for greater forms of physical abuse and can negatively impact the behavioral and cognitive development of children in a variety of ways,"

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DL

As I said before, and you have not proven otherwise, However, you ignore (as usual) the reality of the topic, and try to equate corporal punishment with child abuse."

"When the parental response is to isolate the child, an instinctual psychological need of the child goes unmet. In fact, brain imaging shows that the experience of relational pain—like that caused by rejection—looks very similar to the experience of physical pain in terms of brain activity.

On top of everything, time-outs are usually ineffective in accomplishing the goals of discipline: to change behavior and build skills. Parents may think that time-outs cause children to calm down and reflect on their behavior. But instead, time-outs frequently make children angrier and more dysregulated, leaving them even less able to control themselves or think about what they’ve done, and more focused on how mean their parents are to have punished them.

When children concentrate on their horrible luck to have such a mean, unfair mom or dad, they miss out on an opportunity to build insight, empathy, and problem-solving skills. Putting them in time-out deprives them of an opportunity to build skills that other types of discipline could focus on. Setting clear limits while emphasizing collaboration, conversation, and respect gives kids a chance to practice being active, empathic decision makers who are empowered to figure things out on their own."

Stop abusing your child if you even have a child.
 
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