I had no choice as to who said it and did'nt care about the story as noted.
What I found vexing is the statement which I gather you have nothing to say regarding it.
What do you want me to say? That all marriage should be "for ever," no matter what?
I strongly believe that when two people get married, they do the best they can at the time they make the decision to commit to each other. However, it is clear that people change over a life time (unless they are stuck in mediocrity and refuse to learn and adjust to their environment). Whether or not the two members of a couple change in the same direction, at the same speed, whether or not they can live with the changes in their spouse is the big dilemma. Some can, others can't.
I was lucky! My husband (11 years older than me) asked a young, demure, shy, timid and soft spoken girl, who was afraid of her shadow, who didn't even know she could think for herself, and who didn't know she was anymore than average intelligenc, a child almost, who couldn't even speak English to marry him and to move to the US, thousands of miles away from anything she knew, 41 years ago. We had only known each other 3 weeks before he asked me. . .we were married 6 months later.
I am no longer the same person. . .I am strong, assertive, opinionated and self-assured. There were times when we couldn't recognize each others. . .and we had choices to make: To get to kown each other again, to try to appreciate whom we had become, to examine whether what we had accomplished together was strong enough, meaningful enoug to build a new relationship on it, to fall in love again. . .or to accept the fact that, at that time, we were almost strangers, who had many different needs, ideas, and aspirations.
We decided (twice over the last 40 years) that we still "liked" each other enough, that we had enough in common, that we valued what we had built together enough, that we still respected each other enough (more probably) to find a way back toward each other, to create a new relationship, to date again, and fall in love again. So we stayed together . . .in a new life, because the "vision" that had brought us together when I was only 20 years old had RAN ITS COURSE. . .and it was either a matter of finding a new vision, finding a new love and new relationship TOGETHER or APART.
And we found it together.
But it takes two to do that, especially when both spouses are strong, and intelligent, and opinionated, and independent.
Okay. . .is that enough of a commentary for you?