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Why does Society Hate Families?

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  1. zerorelations

    zerorelations Well-Known Member

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    Then why is it that the divorce rates and illegitimate children are proliferating?
     
  2. vyo476

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    Yeah, either that or the "strong nuclear family" is an example of cultural repression at its greatest. White picket fences, the morning paper on the lawn, all that "honey, I'm home" BS...you get the picture.

    Or maybe there's the part where the "nuclear family" isn't as prevalent as you might think. Where Dad is a bitter alcoholic and Mom sits around at home watching game shows all day and spending money on useless commercial crap. That's the situation I grew up in - well, actually, my mother has Multiple Sclerosis and can't walk, but beside that my family very closely resembles what I just described.

    Or there's the part where urban settings don't exactly foster these nuclear families very well.

    I mean, while we're generalizing I thought I might throw those three out there.
     
  3. evelyna

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    I do not think society hates families at all. Don't they get a gov. credit for how many children they have.
    The gov. does not appreciate anyone in a caring position only because there is no money to be made.
    Most women divorce because of abuse. The man being lazy counts as such to me too.
     
  4. heyjude

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    Changing mores has freed men and women from bad marriages. If I had it to do over, I go to a sperm bank so there would be no custody issues.
     
  5. PLC1

    PLC1 Moderator Staff Member

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    I sense a history of unhappy marriage there.

    I've been married for nearly 40 years, and wouldn't want to go back and live life alone. I especially wouldn't want to try my hand at raising children alone. Raising them as a team is hard enough.

    My niece, on the other hand, refers to her dad (divorced for many years) as "the man my mom married."

    Maybe some people just aren't meant to be part of a family?:confused:
     
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    9sublime Well-Known Member

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    This is such a whinging topic, "Why does society hate families?", it reminds me of Paris Hilton asking her daddy "Why does everybody hate me?"

    Look to the governments, the culture and the lifestyle of countries in the West if you want to start on the thousands of reasons why families are failing today.
     
  7. Cheshire Cat

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    The key is putting the children first. I divorced when my kids were very young, but both of us always put the best interests of the children first (well, I always did, occasionally the ex didn't), but the key was that we were both active in raising the children, they still grew up with a loving father and mother. They currently are 17 and 19 years old, and living in their own house. They are managing quite well for full time students.
     
  8. top gun

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    I don't think it has anything to do with "Society hating families". I think it has everything to do with circumstances and the reality of the world we live in. I see at least 3 main reasons why people are either holding off on marriage, divorcing, living together, or not re-marrying.

    #1) Unlike times past women are not tied to the need to be supported. Today's society has them much more self sufficient.

    #2) People tend not to stay in bad relationships as long most likely due to watching those relationships growing up.

    #3) Men see the inequity in the court system should a marriage they enter into break down.

    The only thing that really matters here is the kids if any...

    P.S. Just attended a friends wedding yesterday... hoping much better for them!:)
     
  9. PLC1

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    Good for you. I can understand how two adults can grow apart, or discover that they really have nothing in common, or find out too late that they are in an abusive relationship, but I've never understood how anyone can abandon their children.

    But some do.:(
     
  10. Justinian

    Justinian Well-Known Member

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    Hey Folks

    Bad marriages happen because of poor upbringing and poor decisions. You can't possibly be naive enough to believe that 55% of couples being divorced is individual, social or national progress.
     
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    Because its... convenient. Anyhow, a large portion of the statistics are from the black community too.
     
  12. Justinian

    Justinian Well-Known Member

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    Perhaps you'd want to think a little deeper and consider using a wider palette when turning in your head the importance of marriage and a healthy, functional, honorable family.
     
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